STALKING syndrome

9:52 PM
     Everyone likes the attention being given to them and their work being appreciated and noticed. But when that attention becomes unwanted or obsessive by an individual or group toward another person, it becomes Stalking.

Cyber stalking has become very common these days. Many social networking sites like Facebook and twitter has made this much easier. And worst nightmare for the cyber stalker is when the “add friend” or the “like” button is accidentally pressed. One best thing that the good old “ORKUT” had was the names of those who visited the profiles.

Stalking or the intense research of an individual becomes creepy when you see someone showing up in your home, send unwanted text messages, and wait at places you hang out or just follow you in bike.

One thing that the stalkers wiz at is STARING. One can feel them scan you and look through you which definitely gives an uneasy feel. The speciality of these people is they just don’t stare from one angle, they keep gazing, gawking, gaping from all the angles.

When a girl rides a bike or drives a car, is it so amusing that few gawkers,even after overtaking the bike/car literally turn 180 degree and stares at you?

Even better, some people just over take you, go some 10 feet forward and just stop, till you arrive at the place and again start chasing!

I so wish there was some key like in road rash , where we could just punch or push those who keep disturbing your ride.

In 2013, Indian Parliament made amendments to the Indian Penal Code, introducing stalking as an criminal offence. Stalking has been defined as a man following or contacting a woman, despite clear indication of disinterest by the woman, or monitoring her use of the Internet or electronic communication. A man committing the offence of stalking would be liable for imprisonment up to three years for the first offence, and shall also be liable to fine and for any subsequent conviction would be liable for imprisonment up to five years and with fine.- Wiki

If someone is being stalked it becomes traumatic. If in danger it is always better to report to the police. Remember to save important evidences like messages, emails (if it is cyber stalk) or note down time , place and date . Always let the family and friends know about this and stay safe.

Mangalsutra (a) Taali in Marriage

9:34 PM
  The big Fat Indian wedding is often an important part of every family.Marriages are filled with rituals and celebrations that continue for several days.The traditional Indian wedding is about two families being brought together Socially. Lakhs are spent on the wedding again to show the social status. For those who are wealthy there is no issue, but the problem arises for the middle class families.

  The average cost of an Indian wedding from the brides side is somewhere between 10 to 20 lakhs. Its fun to attend others wedding, but when it comes to our own family we realise  what a burden it is. There is again a social pressure here. Even in this century where the girl is as equally educated as the guy is, the marriage expenditure has to be taken up by the brides family. How is this right? Why cant the bridegroom share half the cost?

 I cant believe people are still ready to give dowry for girls who are well educated and earning more than the bridegroom. Why? because the girl is over the age  prescribed as the "marriage age". Cant a girl be independent? wont a girl have her own dreams and ambitions? Is getting married her only GOAL in life? Again the Social pressure plays its trick here.

  Wearing Mangalsutra or Tali is a must for married Indian women. Societies taboo female not wearing Mangalsutra or Taali. But why? Isnt it her own wish to wear it ?

 In the olden days  married women wore Taali or Mangalsutra and men wore toe rings as the girls were never allowed to walk with her head held up high, thus it was believed when she sees a man wearing a toe ring she will know that he is married and would not try and court him or make any advancements. 

  I have never seen a man wear toe rings after marriage or there is not custom during the marriage ceremony where the bridegroom is made to wear the toe ring. So This is never spoken about or never becomes a taboo. But When it comes to a women why is that the whole society makes it an issue ??

 I understand the scientific importance of metti and tali. 

"Wearing toe ring to the second toe has sexual/erotic effect.The reflexology texts also mention about treating gynecological problems by massaging the second toe.There is also a belief that the wearing of toe rings press on certain nerves that pertain to the reproductive system, keeping it in balance and healthy.Ancient Ayurvedic medicine has long been used along side acupressure.Indians believe that your "prana" or "life force" must be in balance in order for you to stay healthy. All of the paths of your "prana" run down to your toes, so the idea that a marital symbol could double up as a reproductive enhancer is not a big stretch.By wearing this in both feet, it is believed, that their menstrual cycle course is regularized with even intervals. This gives good scope for conceiving to married women.Also it is said just because that particular nerve in the second finger from toe, also connects the uterus and passes through heart. Because of this, the constant friction caused while walking and doing all sorts of chores during a day, it revitalizes the productivity organs.As Silver being a good conductor, it also absorbs the energy from the polar energies from the earth and passes it to the body, thus refreshing whole body system." ---hindutraditionandculture

But the problem here is Why is it forced only on women? and someone who really wants to know the reason for all there "Social" pressure is termed gabby and no one dares to give the correct answer?

Mangalsutra or Tali is a sacred thread of love and goodwill . Agreed that loads of pujas are done and it brings in a positive vibe, but why is it frowned on and vetoed?? I really fail to understand.

Beacuse there is no explanation given to all these age old customs, We are loosing many traditions and they are being labelled as "Myths". I am a strong believer of science and non-duality and have always believed that tradition and science go hand in hand. In this generation where everyone demands a satisfying answer, if we are not ready to give them the reason behind these customs, i fear we may loose them for ever.

But on everything There is just a social pressure and a fake social painting that has been blown up and framed.

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Office Stress!

9:56 PM
   The topic may seem very familiar to few as they might have experienced it! and for others they must have heard their friends colleagues crib about the stress in their office and office politics. I just wanted to vent out my anger, frustration, the urge to punch few peoples face through my blog!.

   I do not want to blame the company that I work for as I have seen so many awesome people and also great projects where their managers/Sr managers are so understanding and yes, most importantly the work culture and work life balance is well maintained.

   The major problem is with my project. Hell ya, I don't even want to think about that. I would say i was trapped into the project. When my previous project got over I had to be in bench for 2 weeks and a Sr manager called up and said there was a project (in a location that I wanted to be in badly) which had great scope and loads of learning opportunity( not my skill set). And the duration was for just 3 months.  As i dint want to be in bench i fell for the trap.

    And here i am writing this post about how frustrated and irritated I am to be in that project.  I joined this project last august and right from the week that i joined they have been asking us to come on  all weekends, and the project is no where near completion till this date and god knows when it will be over.And every week a fight has to be fought for getting an off on Saturdays/Sundays and all in vain.

  Its been ages since I went out, socialised with my friends, or even saw anew movie. And worst did I gain anything being in this project? Absolutely NONE.
was there learning ? NO.

  Well for others it may be "THANK GOD ITS FRIDAY" but for me it is "OH MY GOD IT IS FRIDAY" , as every Friday we get a mail to work on weekends. The only conversation that we have with our manager during our regular call:

manager: Do u have any issue/concerns??
Team: we cannot come on Saturday.
manager: I am sorry , you people have to come. Just few more days till the project gets over.

REALLY?  I have a life dude!!!   The MOM satellite will come back and it will also be proved that there are aliens in the alpha X11 solar system, but this project will never get over.

And there is no recognition or even appreciation. I just feel like we are being treated like slaves. or even worst! We fight , get off on one weekend and the following Monday we get a mail " since you people were free the previous weekend, all of you are expected to work this weekend"

REALLY??? I thought weekends were off!!! and how about paying us 6th day allowance or at-least comp off??? or at least provide a cab and food?? I wonder if these guys even know if all such things are available.

I so wish I could be a rebel and just say to them all that I feel!.There is a saturation level for everything and one cant keep pushing the limits!!. So I have decided And working on weekends I don't care any more!!.

                                                            live and let live.!!!

P.S: Just wanted to vent out my anger. Did not care about spelling mistakes or grammar!